Attached is a great book. Our editors rated it with a top 5 stars.
User reviews about the book
This book made me realize why I have such a hard time being in a relationship. I'm the rare anxious/avoidant attachment style. It's impossible to to want someone in my life at the same time not wanting to feel smothered by too much attention. I'm working with a therapist who is a specialist in trauma and uses the Internal Family Systems therapy.
Currently nursing a broken heart and sorting through all kinds of emotions. A friend recommended that I read this book to better understand myself and also my ex. It was a great read and forced me to hold a mirror to myself. Also made me hopeful that in the future, I can not only work on myself in a relationship but I can pick a partner and weed out incompatible ones more quickly.
Very Eye Opening
I very much enjoyed this book and learned so much about myself and the significance of staying true to yourself. A lot of these relationship books can make you feel like there's something wrong with you and most issues in your romantic relationships are your fault. Looking forward to applying what I've learned and meeting the right person.
Extremely good read. After realizing I've had attachment issues for a great portion of my adult life, reading this book helped me gain a bit of clarity. If you are looking to understand yourself and your relationship better, this book is for you.
Must read for anyone to gain insight into the science of attachment and the role it plays in relationships
Break up cycle
If you are stuck in an on again off again this will help you get out of the anxious/avoidant trap. Reading other case studies was so awaking. I now know to find someone who can meet my needs and it really is "it's not you its me"!!!! Don't beat yourself up when the relationship doesn't work.
This book has opened my eyes to a lot of the reason my most recent relationship did not work out and how to not fall into that trap again. If you're wondering why you fight so much with your partner or why your last relationship failed, give this book a read
Described my relationship perfectly
I'm anxious and my wife is avoidant. The examples and descriptions in this book were 95% accurate around how I feel and very accurate around what I perceive my wife is feeling. If she reads this book I think we can repair our marriage and bring back the happy days we had in the first couple of years. I feel that early on we both managed to care for each other's emotional well being but as life stresses added up (baby, money, move to another state, college, etc) we started to fall back on our natural dispositions and things have spiraled down in the vicious cycle that anxious-avoidant relationships have. Thank you for clearly expressing this theory. In my opinion it is spot on.
Book is great! Recommend to anyone who wants a better relationship.